from both genders<\/em> acting\u00a0aggressively. \u00a0Regardless of that, there is a valid point in this post.<\/p>\n\u201cOn a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
\nI am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told \u201cOh, that just means he likes you\u201d. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and\/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, I urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of \u201caffection\u201d you are endorsing.<\/p>\n
When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase \u201chitting on girls\u201d comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the \u201cit\u2019s so cute when he gets hateful\/physical with her because it means he loves her\u201d asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While you\u2019re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.<\/p>\n
My daughter is 10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, \u201cthat just means he likes you\u201d line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don\u2019t hurt her and they don\u2019t put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn\u2019t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life.<\/p>\n
For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, \u201cSTOP TOUCHING\/PUNCHING\/PUSHING ME\u201d in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, \u201che probably has a crush on you\u201d. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice givers\u2019 sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid\u2019s ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldn\u2019t say, \u201che probably just wants a play date\u201d.<\/p>\n
I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn\u2019t deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn\u2019t involve hitting girls. I can\u2019t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I can\u2019t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.<\/p>\n
The next time that someone offers up that little \u201csecret\u201d to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, \u201cI LOVE YOU\u201d.\u201d<\/p>\n
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