{"id":531,"date":"2009-11-03T14:43:15","date_gmt":"2009-11-03T19:43:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/?p=531"},"modified":"2009-11-03T14:54:28","modified_gmt":"2009-11-03T19:54:28","slug":"clearing-something-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/?p=531","title":{"rendered":"Clearing something up…"},"content":{"rendered":"

OK first of all, I forgot to mention this a while ago so I\\’m saying something about it now.\u00a0 When you like someone (doesn\\’t matter the gender) and\u00a0 you are so socially in-adequate for a number of reasons that your not getting any…\u00a0 Interrogating the person that you like by asking \\”what went wrong in the last relationship(s) that you had?\\” is NOT. OK. EVER.\u00a0 First of all I at least happen to be smart enough to know that your just making a lame<\/span> really bad attempt at trying not to be \\”that guy\\” as in the guy(s) I\\’ve broken up with…\u00a0 Everyone has a past, that\\’s just the way it is.\u00a0 So yes its bound to come up in conversation once in a while for whatever the reason.\u00a0 Doesn\\’t mean that we\/they\\’re not over it (because chances are we are) its just a part of our life. \u00a0 That\\’s just the way that it is…\u00a0 However sometimes those subjects are touchy for whatever the reason and can on occasion induce fits of rage and are best left un-said.\u00a0 Its one thing to be curious about the person your interested in but making them feel like they should be in an interrogation room is not.<\/p>\n

So let\\’s talk about my ex \\”husband\\” just to clear this up.\u00a0 Not that I really feel that this is anyone\\’s business per say, its not exactly a secret either.\u00a0 The situation as a whole is a tad complicated and I get tired of explaining it, so from here on out if you don\\’t read my blog, then I ain\\’t telling you.\u00a0 When I met him I still lived in Ontario and he lived here.\u00a0 My past isn\\’t all that \\”pure and innocent\\” as some people would like to believe (sorry but it is what it is and made me the person I am today). \u00a0 Yes I did have one very UGLY abusive relationship among other ones that just didn\\’t work out for whatever the reason.\u00a0 Anyway we became fast friends & he had partially jokingly said you should move to Montreal and start over.\u00a0 Little did he know I actually thought that was an amazing idea!\u00a0 Cambridge has its charms but I was getting sick of the same old, same old and needed a change.\u00a0 I figured it wouldn\\’t have been so bad because I had a friend.<\/p>\n

That was until we started dating, then it came down to who\\’s going to live where.\u00a0 He of course preferred that I moved to Mtl (who can blame him) and I wanted to get away anyway.\u00a0 So in October of 2003 I came to visit him and fell in love with Montreal.\u00a0 His parents were super religious (his father is a minister) and they don\\’t believe in the whole sex\/living together before marriage thing (this will be come relevant in a minute).\u00a0 During said visit to Montreal that fall I seen the apartment that I would soon make my home and we got engaged.\u00a0 So then we set the date, started making plans for my move and the wedding.\u00a0 His parents posed a problem so we had to lie and say that I was staying with a friend in Lasalle (which at the time, I didn\\’t even know where Lasalle was) until we got married.<\/p>\n

I moved here on February 21st 2004 and even though I was living with him we had to maintain that ruse that\u00a0 I was living with my imaginary friend and leaving all my furniture and what not with him at the apt. we had.\u00a0 Got settled in, got a job and a car blah blah blah.\u00a0 So in June that same year I had to go back to Ontario to tie up some loose ends and we told everyone that we \\”eloped\\” at city hall in Ontario.\u00a0 Because we were originally planning on getting legally married in Ontario because then I could assume his last name (because I HATE mine) except we never did at that point because we couldn\\’t afford it ($300.00 with the license\/getting married at city hall) at that time so we figured we would a day before the actual wedding. \u00a0 This way I could live with him freely (read without his parents hassling us, who didn\\’t even live ON the island).<\/p>\n

So my car needed a ton of repairs.\u00a0 Caught on fire once, replaced the entire exhaust system, brakes, leaf spring blah blah blah.\u00a0 Before we were due to leave to go to Ontario where we were getting married something got replaced on the car and the mechanic at Midas pointed out the ball joints on my front axle were due to go at any time and they needed to be replaced along with a few other minor things before it would be safe to make that long of a trip.\u00a0 There went the $300.00 we had saved for the license and the actual \\”wedding\\” at city hall to make it legal.\u00a0 Turns out we didn\\’t have enough time anyway due to a million delays here in Montreal.<\/p>\n

We asked his dad to preform the ceremony but he couldn\\’t legally marry us in Ontario without someone from a religious order from Ontario in attendance which is why we were planning on going that route but his whole family thought we were already married (we even had the rings) and we were just \\”going through the motions\\” of the ceremony and having a reception.\u00a0 So yes I had the dress, we had the rings and the whole nine yards, it was just never made legal.\u00a0 The only \\”legal\\” marriage we had was strictly common law and nothing more.\u00a0 So technically I was married, we just never bother making that happen on paper.\u00a0 Sounds confusing?\u00a0 I know, try telling\/explain that a 100 times!\u00a0 So in the end, we split up but I did consider him to be my husband in every sense of the word.\u00a0 Why we broke up isn\\’t relevant, it got ugly for a while be we have since sorted that out and even though were not best friends I no longer wish that he would get hit by a bus. We have both moved on with our lives and I\\’ve been over it for a very long time.\u00a0 The memories are bittersweet, just another chapter in my life story.<\/p>\n

Since I\\’ve been asked on numerous occasions for pictures since I don\\’t have any posted (well duh were not together anymore)\u00a0 here\\’s a few to satisfy the curious:<\/p>\n

In any case, it was one hell of a night!\u00a0 Even though its said and done, people are still talking about it lol.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

OK first of all, I forgot to mention this a while ago so I\\’m saying something about it now.\u00a0 When you like someone (doesn\\’t matter the gender) and\u00a0 you are so socially in-adequate for a number of reasons that your not getting any…\u00a0 Interrogating the person that you like by asking \\”what went wrong in […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,30,3,41,27,13,42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-531","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-epic-fail","category-family","category-friends","category-awesome","category-life-fail","category-random-things","category-we-have-fun"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/531","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=531"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/531\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=531"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=531"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/modologyworld.net\/steph\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=531"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}